Be The One They Want, Not Had...




So I have this friend who recently got a divorce... Married for 15 years and now that she's free, she's playing catch up... She's texting men... Chatting with men and it's 2021, let's be real about it, she's banging men... She's trying to regain all she believes she's missed over the past decade of being in a marriage that ended badly...


So she hits me up today with this "You came acros my mind and I was processing if I should let this guy be my "fuck buddy""... Honestly I believe people ask me questions sometimes for me to go off, seems like they like the beat downs i give... So it takes me a second to respond as I had to process the foolery... Now don't get me wrong, I know it's 2021 and in no way do I believe a woman isn't strong enough to casualy have sex, however what is the end goal here???


You see she believes she's missed out on something... Close to 40, she believes she has missed out on all the fun many of you reading have had... She feels it is her time to go back in time and live her best life... So you're probably wondering what I told her... Well here we go...


My response was "Go sit yo ass down" and she responded with "Why?"... So I began to list all the amazing attributes she possess... To remind her of words she has spoken to me over the years and I began to paint a picture of the woman she worked so hard to become... I never told her she shouldn't, that's her decision... Just opened her eyes to who I see each and every time I see her... After a few minutes of chatting, I dropped a line I believe pierced her heart as the conversation changed afterwards... It went something like "Be the woman they want, not the "bitch" they've had"...


What I know for sure is... You can't go back in time and recapture what you've missed... You can't rewind, nor erase... Life after a relationship can be challenging at times, but you should never try and fill a void with sex, drugs, or alcohol, YOU WILL ALWAYS FEEL EMPTY... Learn to embrace your freedom by respecting and loving it... Being single doesn't give you permission to just sleep around, but it does give you permission to create a future better than your past...


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