I’m a 51-year-old married father of three. My wife and I have no kids together; however we share three beautiful children from past relationships. I have two, she has one. Both of our daughters are nineteen years old and in college, and my youngest is ten years old who lives here in Texas. While my children live with their mothers, my wife’s daughter lives with us. Blending a family has proven to be a very challenging task, but we are conquering it each day with continuous love; patience and understanding.
I’m always amazed by how those on the outside can create a “truth” far from the truth. I’ve heard many times my wife’s daughter receives more, not understanding I have to provide for my household as a leader and provider. In complete transparency, I was placed on child support for both of my children and there have been times I was unable to pay it due to job transition. Now I know it’s not their fault or issue regarding my employment status, but it is the reality of the world today. Men sometimes suffer, just like women and we need understanding and patience as well. Numerous court dates; falling into arrears; modification hearings, you name it, I’ve been through it. Honestly, I’m only here because God covered me through the fire not allowing me to come out looking like what I’ve been through.
As a man I’ve been taught to work, provide and take care of my family. I regret to say I’ve missed a great deal of my kids activities because of my work and all the things I’ve had on my plate. From my kids point of view, I can completely understand. To them it seems I’m not there, but “Adulting” can be a bitch at times. Mortgage; Bills; over $1500.00 in child support, and anything else that comes into factor, surviving is my focus. Some believe I should change my lifestyle, but that’s hard for some men to accept, so I work hard to provide my external obligations as well as my internal duties as a provider for my house which causes me to miss out on some things.
As a man/father, I’ve had to cry and shed many tears. Secretly, there have been many times I’ve wanted to quit, but in those moments, I’m reminded of what God said in His word. He would never leave nor forsake us, so I lean on these words during my seasons. As a father, I hate missing so many events; not being able to be there physically, but I’ve made it my top priority to always have contact with my family giving reassurance of how much I love them. Even though I’m unable to always be there physically due to work, I’m there emotionally. With all that I’m faced with, my proudest moments are those when I persevere; never give up and cheer on those I love to their greater purpose.
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