Updated: Jul 29, 2020
Woman. Saying that word evokes a sense of pride and strength when I think of my identity. I am proud to be a woman. A BLACK woman. 2020 – a year that still sounds futuristic to me, since my formative years were in the 1990’s. No flying cars just yet, but definitely wild times nonetheless.
What type of woman am I? Relatively young at 36, which people remind me of constantly. Fierce. Lover of God, redeemed by Christ. A vessel for human life, though it has not yet happened. An organizer of all things. Soft and sweet interior. Emotional, with a poker face. Often putting others before myself. A Licensed Professional Counselor working in correctional and court settings. A caregiver for my Father who has been fighting colorectal cancer for nearly 10 years.
My womanhood is by design, not by accident. God crafted me by first molding my Mother, Grandmother, and Great Grandmother before me. All amazing women who faced varying degrees of adversity in their lives, and I as well when I take the time to think about it. I consider myself a good mixture between old school and progression. I turn off the lights when I leave a room and don’t interrupt people when they are speaking. I also love social media, traveling often (pre-COVID), and my smart thermostat and front door lock.
Being a Black woman in 2020 is balancing the rage of racial injustice and having care and concern for my Black brothers. It’s asserting myself in a patriarchal society, and remaining hopeful for true love, marriage, and parenthood. It’s fighting the urge to punch every man who tells me “you need to smile” (again, pre-COVID). It’s looking in the mirror and proclaiming that I am beautiful, I am intelligent, I am worthy, and I am enough.
2020 is teaching me to fight through adversity at the highest levels. Every time I think things can’t get more difficult, a new challenge is thrown my way. Creativity, a great support system, and determination have allowed me to rise to the occasion each time. Women are masters of taking care of business and looking good while doing it. We are caring, inspirational, protective, strong, and determined. To be a woman in 2020 is to be a queen.