Updated: Jul 29
As a woman in 2020, I can finally stop apologizing for promoting my self-interests. I didn’t apologize all those weeks I didn’t cook dinner because I was studying to get my MBA. I didn’t apologize when I was promoted at my job to a high level position which meant working longer hours. I don’t apologize for going to the gym before I come home. I don’t apologize for wearing my hair natural and showing off my curves from time to time. I don’t apologize for speaking up for what I believe is right. I don’t apologize if I make someone feel uncomfortable by what I say, do, or wear. Most importantly, I don’t apologize for my strength! For many years, I wanted to please everybody. I wanted to conform to an image which society dictated. I released myself from those shackles and now I have a sense of freedom. I feel like I can do it all…I can take care of my husband and kids while living out my dreams.
If I’m being honest, being a woman in 2020 is also exhausting. I am in this constant battle of always having to prove myself. As a woman, especially a black woman, I have to prove that I am just as good if not better than my white male counterparts. I have to bring my A game each and every day and it becomes exhausting balancing work, fitness, husband, and kids. It is also exhausting being strong while not emasculating my husband. It’s not surprising why more women are choosing not to have a family. There is no longer a stigma attached to a woman not being married with children, it is socially acceptable. Oh yeah, I have to compete with those women too; yes the ones who are married to their careers. Don’t get me wrong, however exhausting my life might be, I am blessed that other strong women paved the way for me to be empowered, strong, educated and unapologetic. In fact, we live in an age where six women can stand on debate stages in the United States with poise and eloquence and form compelling arguments to be elected to the highest office in our nation. We live in an age where we have a woman as speaker of the House of Representatives. A woman today can be CEO, CIO, COO or whatever we want to be.