I'm Single, But Legally Married!!!





So lets talk about tomorrow's podcast "Aht! Separated Is Still Married"... Carlos and I are joined by Skylar Lewis and Omar Anaya and we're going in to an area many people, particularly women, find themselves trapped.... Now this post is actually a repost from March 08, 2016, but I thought it was appropriate seeing what we are talking about on this week's podcast... Check it out and don't forget to check out the podcast tonight at 11 p.m. CST/ 12 a.m. PST.


So over the weekend I had lunch with a beautiful, intelligent, ambitious woman who is passionate about life!!! I mean the food was great, weather was awesome, and the conversation was amazing… As the lunch progressed she began to share with me some of her most recent dating experiences, which in return birth so many blogs for me to share with you… So today I want to talk about those people who are married, maybe emotionally disconnected from their spouse, and possibly living in a different spot… You know those people who are “separated”…

Now call me crazy, but I just don’t understand how someone who is separated from their spouse feels it’s okay to date… I mean honestly this tends to throw me for a loop every time… I don’t care what you want to call it, but THEY ARE MARRIED… If there is no signed, notarized paper work that decrees the divorce or if the County Office doesn’t have filed away a death certificate, THEY’RE STILL MARRIED

Many of you find yourself tangled up with someone who is “Living with my homebody/homegirl”; “On the outs”, “Tired of her b…hing and complaining”, “Sick of his broke @$$”, and someone who is saving enough money to hire a lawyer, yet they are still considered married by God and the state in which they live… Maybe you didn’t know it when you first met him/her, for whatever reason they decided it wasn’t best to share this bit of information with you until either they got the goods, positioned you at a place where you couldn’t walk away so easily, or until they figured you were the type of person who could handle dating someone who is married… YEAH I SAID, MARRIED… “Separated” Is “Married”…

Trust me, I get there appears to be a lack of great candidates out there... But dating someone who is “separated” isn’t fixing the problem for you, it’s actually complicating your life… Sure they’re marriage material, just ask their wife/husband, but they aren’t available… Dating someone “separated” is only emotionally tying you to someone who is physically tied to someone else. Maybe they speak truth when they say “I no longer love him/her”… Possibly there could be some truth in regards to their intentions of getting a divorce, but don’t YOU wait around to find out… “Separated” doesn’t make them single, available, nor free to date… They are still married however possibly living in a different location, sleeping in a different bedroom, or feeling differently from how they felt when they said “I Do”, but they’re still married… Lets face the facts, they're unable to marry you and if they reunite with their spouse, they’re going to deny you...

What I know for sure is…Separated” is still “Married” and until they gussie up the nerves and money to get that divorce, you’re the “Side Chic” or “Plumber cleaning their pipes”… Separate yourself from the "Separated" and find you someone who is FREE to be with you...


Check out last week's podcast "If You Won't, SHE WILL!!!"




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