Men: MENtally -vs- MENtality




So your man cheats... He lies... Have stolen your time, energy and for some of you reading, your money or possesions... He acts as if he doesn't give a fuck about your feelings anymore... There are times the two of you are together, yet he seems to be miles away... He says there isn't another, but you know for sure he is no longer connected to you... So what is it? Where is he? Who is she?


Ladies, lets talk about it...


MENtality: Some of you have chosen a man whose mindset is noncommittal... He will never be honest, will always cheat and if he chooses to marry you, you must accept the fact there will always be others to fulfill his appetite for more. Your feelings are important, just not as important as his... He will listen to your thoughts, but his will never change. His mouth will utter the words "Babe, you're enough", but the demons inside will always crave the attention and affection; validation and affirmation of those outside your releationship. His mentality is one in which only he can change, but it won't be something that happens overnight. Many of you have changed who you are to change who he is, but the only person miserable is YOU...


MENtally: Some of you are with a man who has mentally checked out... This man may have been committed to you, but something changed within your relationship that has caused him to mentally distance himself from you... Could be financial; sexual, spiritual or emotional, but he lays next to you each night and only dreams of being somewhere else. Because this man is mentally checked out, doesn't necessary mean he is physically active with someone else. Not all men are cheaters, some can lay in the pig pin of "misery" and never step out. He is miserable, searching for happiness, but unfortunately for you, he is unable to articulate his truth... You're living in the past of "what was", he is drowing in the present of "what is"...


What I know for sure is... The mentality of a man defines who he is; explains what he does, and prophetically speaks who he will become... The mental state of a man can bless or curse his life, relationships and his future... As a man thinketh, so is he....


MENtality and MENtally are often confused as they both eventually exhibit some of the same characteristics (cheating, lying, etc.), but they are completely different... Mentality is who he is, mentally (checked out) is who he became...


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