Right After...

Updated: Mar 8




I'm always amaze at how right after something tragic happens in our lives, we're okay... It's like we are unbothered by the life changing event and ready to take on the world. Some of us feel joy right after... Some of us feel peace right after... Some of us feel "woke" right after... But there are very few cases where we admit we're hurt right after...


So I have a friend who recently found herself dumped by someone she's invested a lot of time, energy, money, and emotions... According to her, he was amazing, funny, smart, attentive and what she's waited for her entire life, When speaking of him, you could hear the excitement in her voice, but out of nowhere, he decides he longer wants to move forward with an intimate relationship... So first, I want to commend him for freeing her... I get he waited months before admitting he saw no future, but at least he chose to TEXT her to say "Take care" (BTW, a text is a "Bitch Move")...


When receiving the news, I called just to check up on her... Asked how she was doing and of course, GREAT!! Now in no way am I doubting her "Greatness", but please keep in mind I spoke with her earlier today and she was planning to have a birthday dinner with him tonight to give him the great gifts she purchased for his birthday... I digress.. After listening to her, I shared "It's okay to hurt"... So many times we fear appearing to be weak... The world teaches us to never let anyone see us sweat... We are taught if we fall to get right up and keep moving... But most falls tend to leave a scratch, scar or pain that we instantly feel...


What I know for sure is... It's okay if someone or something hurts you... It's okay to be human and find yourself having a weak moment... It's okay to want to scream, cry or punch something or someone right after you've been shaken... Being strong isn't being "Okay", strength is admitting you're weak in a particular moment... Right after anything tragic or unexpected happens in our lives there are many emotions we feel, so feel each of them without denying the other... Trust me when I say I understand "Crying; hurting; and pain" all seems like distractions in moments you need to be strong to survive, but without accepting and embracing the hurt that comes along with it, you will only hurt YOU later... Be honest with yourself and allow your heart to grieve the loss, this is the greatest gain/gift you could ever give yourself...


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